Is Kink Always Sexual? and Discovering Your Kinky Side with Amp Somers
In this episode, Hannah is joined by Amp Somers aka Pup Amp, who is a blogger, sex worker, and activist and creator of Watts the Safe Word. Amp and Hannah try to define kink and BDSM, talk about a lot of the misconceptions in a post 50 Shades world, and talk about animal play and the stigma surrounding it. They get into how kink isn't always sexual and Amp discusses his experience being kinky and demisexual. Hannah and Amp also dive into a bunch of other topics, including: how to discover what your kinks are, kink sex work, and the controversy of whether kink belongs at Pride events (spoiler: yes, it does)!
Read the episode transcript here!
SHOWNOTES
What we chat about…
What do we mean by "kink"?
What's the difference between kink and BDSM?
How different people describe kink differently
Kink in the bedroom, kink as a lifestyle, and kink as a hobby
What is Amp's relationship dynamic?
Living Together Apart
Negotiating names and terms in a relationship
How did Amp discover he was kinky?
Do most people discover their kinks accidentally?
How kink isn't always sexual
Kink as an evolution of play
Asexual kinky people existing
How non-sexual kink feels
What does Amp like about puppy play?
Misconceptions about puppy play
What does aftercare for a dom look like?
Who gets aftercare first if people involved in a scene need different aftercare? How do you negotiate making sure everyone is looked after?
How does aftercare work in sex work? How does the sex worker get aftercare?
When does something become a kink? (32:05)
What's the difference between a kink and a fetish?
Kink at Pride and the controversy around it
Brands at Pride
Would it be weird to go up to a puppy at a kink event and ask to pet them? Or is that rude? (39:09)
How to manage mismatched kinks, or kinks that make the other person feel weird, with a life partner? (39:41)
Kink shaming
Does Hannah think of herself as kinky ever?
How can someone who is interested in kink start exploring their interests when they but don't have access to a kink community or know where to start looking first?
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Pup Amp is a blogger, sex worker, activist and producer for "Watts The Safeword." Along with guests of all abilities, backgrounds, experiences and kinky lifestyles, he destigmatizes topics on sex, kink and other LGBTQ+ issues. From Youtube to Twitch to Podcasting he tries to make the world more sex positive one day at a time
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