ADHD, Relationships and Kink with Cate Osborn
In this episode, Hannah is joined by Cate Osborn, who is a certified sex educator with ADHD, a mental health advocate and full-time content creator. Cate joins Hannah to talk about how typical understanding of ADHD has let down women and minority genders, having ADHD and dating, and how ADHD and kink can intersect. Cate unpacks rejection sensitivity and time blindness, discusses the relationship between ADHD and consent, and shares her opinion on why kink is a great tool for managing stimulation. Finally, Hannah and Cate discuss relationship dynamics where one person has ADHD and the other(s) doesn’t, the moral obligation to treat people with compassion, and how communication is crucial in all relationships.
Read the episode transcript here!
QUESTIONS FROM LISTENERS
- How to navigate telling a partner about spicy kinks when you have a really bad rejection sensitivity?
- Any ideas on managing all these crushes? The novelty is so intriguing, but I want PEACE
- How can I deal with the intrusive thoughts and distraction that pop up during sex? My brain can't stop thinking.
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MORE ABOUT CATE OSBORN
Cate Osborn (aka Catieosaurus- she/they) is a certified sex educator and full-time content creator known for her frank conversations about living life with ADHD and depression/chronic pain. After earning two Masters degrees in Shakespeare from Mary Baldwin University, she worked as the Entertainment Director at the Georgia Renaissance Festival. After transitioning to full-time content creation during the pandemic, she gained almost two million followers in just under a year. Her work focuses funny, honest conversations about ADHD advocacy, disability awareness and advocacy in sex and sex education. Her area of interest is primarily focused on the neurodivergent relationships, especially in the kink community. Outside of her work as an educator, she is also an avid gamer and player of Dungeons and Dragons. As a professional streamer and TTRPG influencer, she is passionate about opening conversations about neurodiversity and accessibility into the gaming community. Her advocacy and education work has been seen in Cosmopolitan Magazine, The New York Times, Time Magazine for Kids, Haaretz, GQ, VICE, Medium, Mashable, Bustle, InStyle, and more. She's been seen on the Today Show, the American Sex Podcast with Sunny Megatron, The Mental Illness Happy Hour with Paul Gilmartin, Prodigy, The Doctors (CBS), Carte Blanche South Africa, and a host of others. Her most recent convention appearances include DragonCon, ECCC, Pax Unplugged, MomoCon, GenCon (and several more) this year, where she hosted panels on inclusivity, accessibility and neurodivergence at the gaming table as well as doing live show podcast recordings. Her life's goal is to talk about ADHD with Elmo on Sesame Street and to have a single line in a Star Wars movie.
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