Asexuality, Kink and Service Submission with Evie Lupine
In this episode, Hannah is joined by Evie Lupine, who is a professional kink and sex educator who has been involved in the BDSM lifestyle for over half a decade. Evie discusses how you can be asexual and into BDSM, how everyone connects to BDSM in a different way, and how kink can be a form of intimacy without being sexual. Evie and Hannah dig into the topic of compulsory sexuality and how it’s alienating for asexual people, and Evie talks aphobia, dating allosexual people when you’re asexual, and dealing with partners trying to push your boundaries. Evie discusses power play, how to engage in your kinks when you’re single, and the importance of working on your self-esteem and boundary skills as a submissive. Finally, Evie chats about her own kinks and identification as a submissive, why particular sexual dynamics can make people in and outside the BDSM community uncomfortable, and what she thinks about consensual non-consent play.
CW: discussion of consensual non consent play
Read the episode transcript here!
QUESTIONS FROM LISTENERS
Thoughts on CNC, which is consensual non consent, getting popular and mainstream? Scary for many.
Tips on navigating internalised guilt as an ace person in a relationship with a non ace person?
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MORE ABOUT EVIE LUPINE
Evie Lupine is a professional kink & sex educator who has been involved in the BDSM lifestyle for over half a decade. She is most well-known for her YouTube channel of the same name where she focuses on teaching people about relationships, asexuality and kink at all levels of experience. She also discusses pop culture topics through a consent culture framework, and enjoys helping everyone build happier, healthier relationships.
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