Pegging the Patriarchy, Dirty Talk and Race Play with Luna Matatas
In this episode, Hannah is joined by Luna Matatas, who is a sex and pleasure educator with over 15 years of experience teaching sex and empowerment workshops. Luna talks all about how to build your sexual confidence through personal exploration, or playing stripper music in the shower like she does! Luna and Hannah discuss the interaction of race and kink, from the frustration of how blind people are regarding race in kink spaces, the delicacy of power in interracial dynamics and how to engage in race play in an ethical way. Hannah and Luna speak about all things anal, from Luna’s thoughts on why pegging is becoming more popular, what anal training is, the importance of caring for your butthole and what active receiving looks like in butt play. Finally, they chat about the pros and cons for Luna when Cara Delevingne and Dior appropriated Luna’s own work, our shared love of the Sex Education babaganoush dirty talk scene and Luna shares some really helpful tips for dirty talking with more confidence.
CW: racism and race-play
Read the episode transcript here!
What we chat about…
What has Luna’s journey to becoming a sexually confident person been like? Has she always been this confident or was it a process?
Tips for getting started with sexual confidence
The intersection between race and kink
The fetishization of BIPOC people based on their race
Can race play be respectful, mutually pleasurable, and agreeable?
Luna coining Peg the Patriarchy and Cara Delevingne and Dior appropriating it at the Met Gala
Navigating Peg the Patriarchy copycat work afterwards
When did Luna start talking about pegging? Has she seen interest in it grow and evolve since?
Practical advice on how to start trying pegging
Different types of harnesses
Accessibility in pegging and anal play
Anal training - what is it and what’s important?
Good kinds of lube for anal play
Being an active receiver
Discussing your verbal and bodily pleasure cues with a partner
Dirty talk
How to dirty talk with confidence
How to broach dirty talk with a partner
How to explore kinks as someone who doesn't know what theirs are? (44:37)
Tips on unlearning masculinity issues when it comes to sex, especially needing to be dominant, though I want to be submissive sometimes, and I can't be vulnerable and honest about fantasies (47:06)
USEFUL LINKS
How to Talk About Your Fantasies (Luna’s blog post)
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MORE ABOUT LUNA MATATAS
Luna Matatas is a Sex and Pleasure Educator with over 15 years of experience teaching sex and empowerment workshops. She celebrates body confidence, self-adoration and building shame-free pleasure in and out of the bedroom. She teaches a wide range of topics; including threesomes, BDSM and sexual confidence. Luna hosts The Plug Podcast, an anal sex podcast by b-Vibe. She created Peg the Patriarchy® and Meditate Medicate Masturbate® brands as part of her sex-positive and feminist merchandise.
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