The Messy Side of Masturbation with Poppy Lepora
In this episode, Hannah is joined by Poppy Lepora, who is the founder of the independent sex toy boutique Self & More and a masturbation enthusiast. Poppy discusses discovering self-pleasure and we talk about lockdown masturbation habits (with data!). She and Hannah talk about the stigma around masturbation if you're in a relationship and really get into the theme of "messy masturbation" - the real, dirty, horny reality of wanking. Finally, Hannah and Poppy discuss what it's like running a sex-positive business using Instagram as a main platform and the difficulties with their sex-negative policies, AND, of course, Poppy gives us a whole bunch of sex toy recommendations.
Read the episode transcript here!
SHOW NOTES
What we chat about…
Why Poppy started Self & More
How Self & More categorises sex toys by what the toy does to your body rather than by what gender you are
Normalising self-pleasure
The ongoing myth that you should only wank if you're single
Masturbation and wanking being your own private sex life
Masturbation May
Research into lockdown masturbation habits
How nearly 50% of people are masturbating more in lockdown
Self & More's Messy Masturbation campaign to reclaim the raw horny realities of wanking
Collaboration with Lustery, the porn company: porn featuring real couples talking about and wanking with Self & More sex toys by themselves and together
Why isn't there a better name for mutual masturbation?
Zine collaboration with The London Vagabond: a zine of photographs of real people wanking
Finding things hot when you're aroused that you don't the rest of the time
How is it running a sex toy boutique and a sex positive business through platforms like Instagram?
Has Self & More had any posts removed by Instagram?
Poppy's current favourite sex toys
What's a good first beginner sex toy? (33:24)
What's a good beginner sex toy for people with penises? (37:58)
I've never masturbated. Where do I start? (41:31)
Advice on not feeling pressured to orgasm during masturbation? (44:14)
Describe your personal pleasure in three words. (47:13)
USEFUL LINKS
SEX TOYS MENTIONED
Tenga Flip Hole Zero
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MORE ABOUT POPPY LEPORA
Poppy Scarlett Lepora is the owner of Self & More sex toy boutique, a pleasure educator and female masturbation activist (aka a proud wanker). She launched Self & More because she was frustrated by the way that many sex toy retailers viewed female pleasure through the male gaze. She believes that shopping for sex toys should be as simple and shame-free as shopping for any other kind of self care items.
Poppy is a polyamorous, bisexual woman who’s dedicated to helping people to speak more honestly about their sexual desires and dismantling the stigma that still surrounds masturbation in the UK.
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