The Swinger Lifestyle and Parties with Shani and Tony Hart

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In this episode, Hannah is joined by Shani and Tony Hart, who are swingers and who own two erotic boutiques called Hart’s Desires. Shani and Tony discuss what swinging is, Shani and Tony’s boundaries and how to find your own, as well as how to find fellow swingers and events and the importance of communication. They and Hannah talk about the swinging scene in relation to feminist and anti-racist spaces, and the segregation they’ve witnessed in the swinging community. Finally, Hannah, Shani, and Tony discuss running a business together, conflicts in relationships, and therapy.

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What we chat about…

What is swinging?
How do Shani and Tony see swinging as similar or different to other forms of non-monogamy?
How did Shani and Tony meet? How did they get into swinging?
Were Shani and Tony swinging previously as individuals or with other partners?
Were either of them worried about bringing the topic up for the first time with each other?
Does swinging have to come in party-form or can it be casual meetups (without alcohol)? (13:23)
What is Hart’s Desires? What’s it like running a business together?
Shani and Tony attending couples therapy
What are Shani and Tony’s swinging rules and boundaries?
Safewords and ending sessions
What are Shani and Tony’s favourite things about swinging?
How do you meet other swingers? Is there a swingers’ Tinder? (28:41)
I find it hard to find spaces that are aware of feminist/anti-racist issues. Any suggestions? Is this something that you’ve come across? (30:55)
Is swinging just for bored middle-aged people? (38:45)
Starting a conversation with your partner about things you might be into
Is aftercare needed after swinging/parties? (45:00)