Inventing a Sex Toy to Sit On and Erotic Writing with Tabitha Rayne
In this episode, Hannah is joined by Tabitha Rayne, who is a writer of erotic romance and the creator of the hands-free sex toy Ruby Glow. Tabitha discusses how she discovered a gap in the market and also how she went about designing a new sex toy. She and Hannah talk about feeling the need for external permission before doing or feeling certain things and how necessary it is to be able to give ourselves that permission instead. Finally, Hannah and Tabitha discuss the process of writing erotic romance, and erotic fiction as a form of ethical porn.
Read the episode transcript here!
SHOW NOTES
What we chat about…
How did Tabitha get into erotic writing?
The feeling of needing external permission to start engaging with porn or sex toys
Needing to take breaks when writing about sex
How Tabitha discovered the gap in the market for a hands-free sex toy
Creating the first model for the Ruby Glow
How Tabitha’s friend invested in the Ruby Glow business
The limitations in the design of traditional sex toys
The difference between on-page and real life orgasm experiences
The Euph Off awards
Exploring topics in erotica that aren’t covered in other genres
Reading erotica aloud
Tabitha reads from Drenched
Feedback from the first testers of the Ruby Glow
Collaborating with Rocks Off
What does Tabitha count as “filthy”?
Giving yourself permission to think about sex
Accommodating all levels of sexuality in sex-positive spaces
How depression can affect the sex drive
Tabitha’s #30DayOrgasmFun event in April
Is erotic fiction the most ethical form of porn?
USEFUL LINKS
Tabitha has offered our listeners £5 off the Ruby Glow with the code DOINGIT. Find the Ruby Glow here*: https://www.therubyglow.com/
Drenched by Tabitha Rayne*: https://amzn.to/2JcxSqg
Kate Lister Doing It episode: https://doingitpodcast.co.uk/episodes/katelister
Hysterical Literature: http://hystericalliterature.com/
Girl on the Net: https://www.girlonthenet.com/
Ferly: https://weareferly.com/
Rocks Off: https://www.rocks-off.com/
#30DayOrgasmFun: https://tabitharayne.com/2019/03/and-its-back-30dayorgasmfun-masturbation-for-a-mental-health-boost/
FrolicMe: https://www.frolicme.com/
The Vaginismus Network: https://www.thevaginismusnetwork.com/
MORE ABOUT TABITHA RAYNE
Tabitha Rayne is a writer of erotic romance, commissioning editor of the online erotic magazine FrolicMe, and the creator of the Ruby Glow, an award-winning hands-free sex toy.
Find out more about Tabitha on Twitter and Facebook and on TabithaRayne.com
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