Dating Advice and Social Media Etiquette with Gaby Dunn & Allison Raskin

In this episode of Doing It! Hannah joins YouTubers Gaby Dunn and Allison Raskin, who run the channel Just Between Us and also wrote the book I Hate Everyone But You. They talk about their best dating advice (which is sometimes advice you’ve given friends & then forgotten…), ask what’s the right thing to do when you think your friend is dating the wrong person. Sharing about their own relationships and breakups, they talk about being ready for a relationship, and how our standards might change as we get older. Finally, they discuss people seeing you through your online profile, and how you can get used to people knowing more about you than you do about them.


What we chat about…

  • Dogs, including their dogs Beans & Sugar, and asking… is Beans an Incel?!

  • Dating advice that they’ve given and also been given - where do you stand on keeping photos of your ex on your social media because you feel guilty about dumping them?

  • Dating the wrong people, and whether we know subconsciously when someone is ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ for us; and what should we do when we think the person our friend is dating is definitely the ‘wrong’ one?

  • Our own relationships, including Hannah adjusting to being in a relationship after being single for six years, and Gaby’s longest relationship & her recent breakup, as well as Allison feeling security in her relationship for the first time.

  • Is it possible to be ‘ready’ for the right relationship? And how do we know this?

  • Marriage and divorce; why would you get married if you don’t buy into the institution? And should we not see divorces as ‘failure’ but actually a success for how long the relationship lasted?

  • Not dating people in the hope of making them a better person - it never works!!

  • Dating smokers and what smoking could say to potential partners.

  • Posting online when your mental health is down, and how this can lead to depression porn, which glorifies mental illness.

  • Why do we worry when our partner doesn’t take pictures of us? Do they really like us less than those who do take photos?

  • Dating as a YouTuber, including getting used to people knowing more about you than you do about them, and worrying if they’re with you just to get social media followers.

  • How we define what ‘work’ is when you’re doing a career you enjoy - do you need to find something hard in order to cal it ‘work’?

  • The Colour Code Test, Astrology and whether these personality tests actually mean anything.

  • Killing Eve and our love for Phoebe Waller-Bridge, and a (questionable) love for John Wick 2.



Gaby & Allison are YouTubers who run the channel Just Between Us, which is also a podcast, and they’ve shot and co-created a pilot for MTV, and developed original half-hour pilots with 20th Century Fox, FX, and YouTube Red. Their first novel I Hate Everyone But You became a New York Times Best Seller in 2017, and their next book, Please Send Help, will be released on 16th July 2019.

Find out more about Gaby and Allison on their website, YouTube, podcast, social media and pre-order their new book!!




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