Red Flags, Fuck Boys and Dating Better with LalalaLetMeExplain
In this episode, Hannah is joined by LalalaLetMeExplain, an anonymous sex, dating and relationships expert and a qualified social worker who has just released her first book: “Block, Delete, and Move On”. Lala and Hannah talk about what dating with self-love really looks like, why it’s more important to look for green flags than red flags when it comes to getting to know someone, and why it’s so common for there to be a disconnect between the advice we give other people and the advice we give ourselves. Lala discusses incorporating mindfulness in your approach to dating - and why you maybe shouldn’t always listen to your vagina.
CW: abusive relationships
Read the episode transcript here!
What we chat about…
What is LalalaLetMeExplain and why did Lala start that page?
What is Block, Delete, Move On about and who is it for?
Why is there sometimes a disconnect between us giving advice to other people and being able to integrate it into our own lives?
Self-esteem and actually loving yourself
The common phrase “you need to love yourself before anyone else can love you”
What are some red flags in relationships that Lala has learned about from professional and personal experience?
Different red flags for different things: for example, abuse, misogyny, or already being married
What are pink flags?
What are some green flags in relationships?
Feeling good when you’re around someone
Do vaginas have some sort of intuition? Should we be listening to our vaginas more?
Is he worth disturbing your pH for?
Did becoming a mother change the way that Lala dated?
Dating apps changing the dating scene
The law of attraction
Bringing mindfulness to dating
I've blocked and deleted. How can I start moving on? (32:21)
What's your advice to someone dating in their late 30s/early 40s? (34:51)
It's probably just nostalgia and being a Pisces. But why do I miss an ex when I'm in a happy relationship? (40:24)
When is the right point to have the exclusive chat, and the being a couple chat? (45:33)
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MORE ABOUT LALALALETMEEXPLAIN
LalalaLetMeExplain is Instagram sensation - an anonymous sex, dating and relationships expert who has amassed a staggering 175k followers! A qualified social worker and dating & relationships educator, she left her 15-year career in the public sector in 2018 to bring her professional knowledge to social media. This is a smart, aware, provocative and engaging debut which empowers women to tackle the pitfalls of modern dating and helps them to successfully navigate unsatisfactory relationships with a man, and Lala’s personal experience and career as a trauma expert ensure she is uniquely positioned to write this book.
You can follow Lalalaletmeexplain on Instagram (@lalalaletmeexplain)
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