Postpartum Sex Life, Bisexuality and Vaginas with Melanie Murphy
In this episode, Hannah is joined by Melanie Murphy, an award winning lifestyle YouTuber, bestselling author and Hannah’s good friend! Mel talks about how relationship with her bisexuality has changed since becoming a mum, being genderless blobs with her husband, and how she navigates creating parenting content whilst also maintaining boundaries for her and her family. Mel also opens up on the impact of giving birth on her body, as well as the miracle of the body and its capacity to heal. Melanie shares her advice on around navigating your sex life with your partner after you have a baby and learning to prioritise time and making extra effort as a couple after becoming parents, and Hannah and Melanie talked about how to cope with anxiety when you're pregnant and dealing with fears of miscarriage. Finally, Hannah shares why she didn’t want to see the picture Melanie took of her vulva after giving birth!
CW: discussion of miscarriage, mention of eating disorders
Read the episode transcript here!
What we chat about…
Has Mel’s relationship with her bisexuality changed since becoming a mother?
Feeling genderless at home
Choosing which parts of yourself to share online
Mel’s decision not to share her kid’s face or name online and her audience’s reaction to that
Navigating sharing parenting content with your own comfort levels around sharing your child’s image online
Mel taking a picture of her vulva after giving birth
Why Hannah didn’t want to see the vulva picture at the time
How did it feel to take that picture? Does Mel go back and look at it now?
Explicit sex ed for certain topics like perineum massage
The impact of giving birth on Mel’s body
How Mel’s orgasms feel now after birth
Navigating a sex life with a partner after having a baby
How have Melanie and her partner been able to connect with each other after having a baby? Has it taken effort?
Sharing a bed and a bedroom with a baby and your partner
Managing expectations about what your relationship might be like after you have a baby
English pronunciation in baby toys and cartoons
How did you cope with first trimester anxiety? (36:38)
Mel’s hospital stay after the baby was born
Worrying about miscarriage in the first trimester
Experiencing a previous miscarriage
What's something you wish people had told you about postpartum? (42:40)
How to keep the non breastfeeding partner involved while exclusively breastfeeding? (47:00)
Mel’s advice for Hannah on postpartum relationship things
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Melanie Murphy is an award-winning lifestyle Youtuber and best-selling Irish author from Dublin, Ireland, where she lives with her husband and one year old son. Melanie’s online content about creativity, relationships, motherhood, sexuality, confidence and mental health has attracted hundreds of thousands of followers across social media platforms and her YouTube videos have amassed over 72 million views to date. She was named Blogosphere's ‘Influencer of the Year’ in 2018 and ‘Best Social Media Star' at the 2020 Gossies.
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