Giving Women a Voice and Talking STIs with Oloni

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This week, Hannah chats to sexual wellness and relationship content curator Oloni. They talk about what it means to be a self-made sex-expert (and not knowing everything!), and Oloni’s work to empower women to improve their sex lives and their relationships. They also discuss stealthing, and STI stigma, including how to tell your partner you have an STI. Finally, they chat about whether society has really become more sex positive.

Read the episode transcript here!

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What we chat about…

Learning sex tips from magazines like Cosmo - why were the tips always about giving pleasure and not receiving it?
How Oloni got into writing about sex
Being the friend that always talks about sex
Being a self-made sex-expert, and the pressure of people calling you a sexologist!
The reaction of men to Oloni’s work - why are they afraid of her speaking to women about improving sex and relationships?
Being active online and people sharing their stories of sex and relationships with Oloni, as well as the responsibility of this
Stealthing, which is when a condom has been removed without the other partner’s knowledge
Reactions to stealthing; it’s often not talked about, and there’s also a pressure to please someone else (“It feels better without a condom”)
Redefining stealthing as rape
STI stigma
Telling your partner you have an STI
The TV Show Lovesick and it’s portrayal of having an STI
Using the word ‘clean’ when talking about STIs, and the language we use around sexual health and our bodies more generally
The Big O; Oloni’s book that she is currently crowdfunding for online
Squirting - is it pee? Does it contain pee? Where does it come from? How do you do it?
The book ‘The Power’, and the importance of a power balance in relationships
Are we becoming more sex positive? Is 2019 really the year of ‘sexual wellness’ and what does ‘wellness’ mean?

Useful Links

Lovesick: a Netflix TV Show where Dylan learns he has chlamydia and then has to contact all of his ex-girlfriends. Watch: https://www.netflix.com/gb/title/80041601?source=35
A Curious History of Sex: a new book that’s being crowdfunded for on Unbound. It’s a: ‘cornucopia of giggles, gaffs, titillation, temptations, and exceptional expertise in all things historically sexual from Dr Kate Lister’. Find out more: https://unbound.com/books/curious-history-of-sex/
The Big O: Oloni’s book that’s currently being crowdfunded for on Unbound. This relationship and sexuality book is especially for millennials. Pledge here: https://unbound.com/books/the-big-o/
The Power: A fiction book that looks at what happens when women across the world are suddenly able to emit electricity from their hands. Buy it here: https://amzn.to/2Ywj6Vq*
Sex Education: A Netflix TV show where Otis becomes a sex therapist to his fellow students. Watch it here: https://www.netflix.com/gb/title/80197526?source=35
Laid Bare: The sex and relationship podcast Oloni co-hosts. Listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/laid-bare/id1443209267

MORE ABOUT OLONI

Oloni is a sexual wellness & relationships content creator, who co-hosts the Laid Bare podcast. She also runs Simply Oloni, the women’s platform for sex and relationship features, and is currently working on her first book The Big O.

Find out more about Oloni on her Twitter and Instagram.